Dear Future Husband,
We have been friends for 11 months now. Two nights ago, I thought I already knew that it is you I'd say yes to. Your surname will be mine, I'll be the mother of our kids, but you and I still have a lot of growing up to do.
Please let us go on being friends. Distance and time will help us be better and enable us to become the man and wife we each aspire to be.
I am leaving you with memories to last a lifetime. When the day shall come for you to propose to any woman you choose, may it be me or the woman you are attracted to and charmed by, may we be able to accept it but go on being courteous, civil and friendly to each other.
My dear friend. My confidante. How I long to someday plant a kiss on your cheek and wake up next to you and have our children wake us up even at ungodly hours. I'd gladly cook, clean, do the laundry and submit to your leadership. I will love you until my last breath.
You are loved. You are cherished. I'll keep you in my heart... ALWAYS.
Yours in time,
Cara
Thursday, August 30, 2018
The Dangers of Stereotyping and Limiting One’s Potential
Have you experienced being stereotyped, called names that are not your given name? How bad did that make you feel? Recently, I met up with a crush here in Baguio and although he meant no harm nor did he expect that I would react this way to how he perceives us, I came to see the dangers in stereotyping and how it correlates to limiting someone’s potential.
N said he’s a mountain boy while I am a rich kid.
N also said he likes simple women who love the great outdoors.
C responded by not showing her dismay. She calmly took the perception and analyzed what N was saying about his preferences in a woman. Then as C lay awake in bed, tears began to flow freely and it shocked her how she hid the truth from N that she is bothered by the fact that N thinks she’s high maintenance. N would have to make a lot of sacrifices just to meet her halfway or reach the same financial freedom she has. He doesn’t see her overall potential. He sees at least 30%. The remaining 70% he completely disregards.
Tuwing tayo ay nagiging mapanghusga sa ating kapwa, inaalis natin ang ating sarili sa Kanyang pamumuno. Tuwing minamasdan natin at binabalewala ang paghihirap at ang nais ng iba na umahon at umasenso sa buhay, di natin napapansin na tayo na pala ang sanhi ng kanilang kawalan ng tiwala? Saan o kanino sila nawalan nito? Una, nawawalan sila ng tiwala sa angkin nilang talento. Kapag nawala na iyan, sunud-sunod mo nang pagdududahan di lamang ang iyong sarili kundi pati na rin ang Siyang lumikha sa sanlibutan.
We should not belittle others. We should not stop them from being who and what they are meant to be.
N said he’s a mountain boy while I am a rich kid.
N also said he likes simple women who love the great outdoors.
C responded by not showing her dismay. She calmly took the perception and analyzed what N was saying about his preferences in a woman. Then as C lay awake in bed, tears began to flow freely and it shocked her how she hid the truth from N that she is bothered by the fact that N thinks she’s high maintenance. N would have to make a lot of sacrifices just to meet her halfway or reach the same financial freedom she has. He doesn’t see her overall potential. He sees at least 30%. The remaining 70% he completely disregards.
Tuwing tayo ay nagiging mapanghusga sa ating kapwa, inaalis natin ang ating sarili sa Kanyang pamumuno. Tuwing minamasdan natin at binabalewala ang paghihirap at ang nais ng iba na umahon at umasenso sa buhay, di natin napapansin na tayo na pala ang sanhi ng kanilang kawalan ng tiwala? Saan o kanino sila nawalan nito? Una, nawawalan sila ng tiwala sa angkin nilang talento. Kapag nawala na iyan, sunud-sunod mo nang pagdududahan di lamang ang iyong sarili kundi pati na rin ang Siyang lumikha sa sanlibutan.
We should not belittle others. We should not stop them from being who and what they are meant to be.
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